Become the Best Communicator You can Be

As human beings, one of the more advantageous abilities we have is the ability to communicate. Other species also have their own unique ways to communicate though, that are effective in their own right.
In many ways, humans have an upper hand, but in other ways we succumb to pressures that distort our message, and what we want to communicate.
The determination to always be ‘right’, greed, pride and other unproductive motivations do more harm than good in the long run. These elements contribute to a lesser standard of communication which leads to the opposite of what we desire from communication, and creates confusion.
It is helpful to think about where we want to reach through communication and backtrack from there.
What is the desired result of communication?
I would say it is clarity, end result, and in an ideal situation, equal satisfaction for all parties that are affected by communication.
There are multiple things that we communicate:
1. Opinions/Thoughts
2. Feelings
3. Facts
Keep in mind, the first two could be our own opinions and feelings or others’ opinions and feelings. These two communication topics are also subjective, and differ from person to person.
Now, the question: How Can You Become the Best Communicator You Can Be?
Communication is a skill that has become highly desired not just in personal matters, but also in businesses. A good communicator can be the difference needed to achieve personal and business goals.
Here are a few ways I check myself, and my communication:
1.  LISTEN first, and TALK later
If ever you are in a discussion with someone, make sure that the tone of the discussion tips more towards ‘conversation’ than towards ‘argument’ in the communication scale.
When we listen to the other parties first, we have a better chance in understanding where they are coming from. Everyone thinks they are right, because they are the only people that understand the perspective that makes them think they are right.
For example, A is a vegetarian. A wants a pineapple pizza and B wants pizza with ham. If B listens to WHY A wants to order a pineapple pizza (because A cannot consume ham) B might be in a better place to understand where A is coming from.
So LISTEN and understand the reason why anyone’s thought differs from yours.
2.      Talk CLEARLY and SLOWLY
One of the simplest ways to become an excellent communicator and make sure that people actually listen to you: Talk slower.
A major reason why most of us rush through our words, is because we are afraid to take up too much time. We are afraid someone will cut us off, or not want to hear us. This is a misconception, because people WILL listen to you as long as you say things they can relate to. So first, check your content according to your audience. If it is good to go, take your own sweet time, with some pauses in between and be at ease when you talk.
3.      Don’t HEAR to answer, LISTEN to others
A lot of us ALWAYS have an answer ready. We approach conversations like a debate, and have already imagined every possible answer and response. We create a structure to the conversation, without even listening to what the other person says. This is driven by the need to always prove ourselves “right”. But think about it, what is right?
Right is what we perceive it to be. It can change if we hear something valuable by another, and that information can make our perception of right better than ever.
We also have a tendency to look down upon people when we have a discussion.
“How do you not know that!”
“Were you living under a rock?”
And the worst one-
“Told you so!”
When did communication become a weapon? A tool used to prove that we are better?
Instead of viewing it in that way, if you feel that the discussion is tilting your way, EDUCATE, don’t CONDESCEND.
The power to give knowledge is higher than anything else, and we must remember that everyone knows something that you don’t. You have a better chance of receiving from them if you give to them generously.

Kass Thomas

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What is Your Relationship With Your Body?

All of us are a combination of different elements. These elements join, separate, interact and react to each other to construct the totality of who we are.The elements are made up of more elements and so on. For example, our personalities include our skills, feelings and reactions.

Different parts of ‘YOU’ or ‘ME’ may include our personalities, experiences and our bodies. 
In this blog, let’s talk about ‘BODIES’, and three things about it, namely, our awareness, acceptance and appreciation of our bodies.

Your body is the best indicator of how you are feeling. Your body is the outlet your mind uses to express itself. Bodies give us signs. These are signs can be of joy, of sadness and anger, of anxiety or excitement. If we listen to our bodies, we know how we feel. When we know how we feel about things, we are able to act in the manner to do things that result in happiness and excitement, and avoid things that result in sadness and anger.


How aware are you of your body?
I don’t mean just in terms of theory, but also in terms of feel. 
We know how many hands we have, but do we know where our hands are comfortable being placed when we are sitting? When we are sleeping or walking?

We have two legs, but how do those legs move when you run? Do they twitch when you are nervous?

When you realize a strong emotion manifesting in you, make it a point to stop and listen to your body. How is it reacting, how is it behaving?
For example, when you are nervous, does your heart beat faster? Do you start shaking your knee?

You can also track backwards from your body movements. If you suddenly notice your hand is shaking abnormally, stop and think about where your mind is at that moment. What are you thinking about, what thought is running through your mind, and then into your body and out?

Do you accept your body?

Do you accept each and every part of you, from your mind to your feet? Or do you avoid thinking about it? And on the other end of the spectrum, are you in denial about your body?

Body image is a topic that has been prominent throughout history, exists in the present, and will continue to be a part of our lives in the future. It has to do with your view about your body, and what you think constructs a ‘perfect’ body, and finally, the difference between the two. 
We need to accept our body, as it is a part of us. The most important thing when you look at it should not be, ‘Does it adhere to the standards of beauty in society today?’. The correct question to ask yourself is- ‘Is my body healthy? Is it happy?’

Societal standards for beauty and physicality have become an amalgamation of manipulation and facade. We need to ask ourselves- What is Beautiful?
In my opinion, difference and diversity is beautiful, health is beautiful and joy is beautiful!

Spend some time with your body, listen to it, and check if it is healthy and happy. If it is, do not torture it, and let it remain happy, and let yourself be included in its joy.


Finally, do you love your body?

Your body lets you do so many things. It is the monitor to the CPU that is your mind! It is the facilitator of your thoughts and dreams. It certainly loves you, but do you love it?

Acknowledge your unique beauty, and acknowledge what makes you different. Because what makes you different is what makes you, YOU.

When we accept and love our bodies, there is an immediate ‘click’ that we feel inside. Like the sound a key makes when it hits the right spot in the key hole, you feel like you have opened yourself up to a host of new possibilities and opportunities. If you love your body, it will give you so much in return.

So there it is! Connect, interact and listen to your body. Let it flow naturally and understand what it needs, and what it can give to you!

Kass Thomas

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