{"id":163,"date":"2019-01-22T16:57:00","date_gmt":"2019-01-22T15:57:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.kassthomas.com\/blog\/how-to-recover-yourself-from-an-undesirable-situation\/"},"modified":"2019-01-22T16:57:00","modified_gmt":"2019-01-22T15:57:00","slug":"how-to-recover-yourself-from-an-undesirable-situation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.kassthomas.com\/blog\/how-to-recover-yourself-from-an-undesirable-situation\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Recover Yourself From an Undesirable Situation"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Has an incident ever thrown you off your game completely?<\/span><\/i><\/span><\/div>\n
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Have you ever noticed how an incident or a conversation can throw you off track, scramble your head or make you feel discombobulated?<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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We experience reaction formation post this incident, and the feeling of confusion and panic is created. When we project our feelings into our reaction, we tend to create even more havoc.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
This usually results in us entering or creating a situation that doesn\u2019t reflect who we are, or what we desire out of this situation, and we move away from ourselves. <\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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Undesired Incident\u2192 Discombobulated Feelings\/Mind\u2192 Unproductive Reaction\u2192 Harmful Situation<\/span><\/b><\/span><\/div>\n
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Let\u2019s look at an example.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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Not very long ago, I went through a similar situation. Here is a breakdown of events:<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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I had to change planes twice before reaching my destination in Canada. I had to travel from Rome to Amsterdam,  Amsterdam to Toronto and then Toronto to Edmonton.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
Upon reaching Toronto, I was told my bags were stuck in Amsterdam and would be delivered two days later to Edmonton.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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Discombobulated Feelings\/Mind\u2192  Unproductive Reaction<\/span><\/b><\/span><\/div>\n
I cried.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
It was a beyonds moment- a moment where I felt beyond any control. It felt like there was a part of me crying, and there was another part of me that was shocked at my reaction, but still, completely out of control.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
I proceeded to customs with no suitcases, and I was whining at the customs official like a child. I could still understand that what I was doing was ridiculous, but could not snap back into reasonable behaviour.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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This undesirable reaction led to another undesirable reaction.<\/span><\/b><\/span><\/div>\n
I decided I needed a smoke to calm down. I usually roll my own cigarettes, organic tobacco, which is often mistaken for marijuana in America.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
As I was rolling my cigarette, crying, shivering and upset, I happened to notice a gentleman rolling weed just next to me and panicked again.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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If I was my usual, calm self, not recently put off by my bags getting delayed, I would have calmly moved away, or remembered that marijuana is actually legal in Canada.Instead, I panicked and created even more confusion and havoc in my head, which would in no way be beneficial to my situation.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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My mind jumped to the worst case scenario:  \u201cOh great, now I\u2019m going to get arrested with no bags or anything!\u201d<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n

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Now, let’s understand, there was not one, but two undesirable situations (one created by the other) that had thrown my off my game, and I was just not myself.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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In this state of mind, I went inside and checked the screen for Edmonton. The gate was much further than I had thought previously, and they kept announcing, \u201cLast call! Last call!\u201d, which added further to my frenzy. As I arrived, all sweaty from rushing-<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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The attendance checks my ticket and declares, \u201cThis isn\u2019t your flight.\u201d<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
\u201cWhat?! Not my flight?!\u201d I exclaim.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
So I checked my ticket again properly and sure enough, I was on a different flight. Same destination. Same time. Different airlines. Here was my \u2018harmful\u2019 situation.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
I thought, there was no way I could get on that particular flight, and there were no other flights for my destination. In my head, I\u2019m panicking, repeating- Oops. Oh NO! NOW WHAT?!<\/i><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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After I repeated these words, I was just about to go into reaction formation AGAIN. This is when I laughed. This is when I realized, it is not me thinking this way. Two negative doom and gloom thoughts in a row (and another incoming) is a dead giveaway: This is not me.<\/i><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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I realized that instead of getting further and further away from me with each accumulating event, I needed to connect with myself again.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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I literally said out loud: \u201cHold it! This is not me. This is not in line with who I am and what I desire. I\u2019m going to change this now. Universe, please show me the magic?\u201d<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
Ah! Finally, a space started opening up. I could even see clearer, and saw the monitors. I now realize, my flight gate was at the very location I was at when I started panicking to catch the wrong flight. <\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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This made me laugh again.The Universe had been on my side this whole time, but I was so wrapped up in my bag loss and the marijuana scare, disconnected from me, that I was not even able to see the helping hand that was right in front of me<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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I ran all around the chicken house barn looking for what was right in front of me all along. Has that ever happened to you?<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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I knew at that point that I would make it. Even if I had to transmigrate, engage the elementals. I had reconnected with me and from that space anything was possible. I couldn\u2019t  go wrong.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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So whether it is meditation or deep breathing, laughter, a walk in nature or a poc and pod, do whatever it takes, whatever works for you.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
But make sure you are connected with you, before you begin interacting with others and creating reactions.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
It will save you lots of strife and heartache and open up infinite possibilities. <\/span><\/span>

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