{"id":160,"date":"2019-02-13T16:08:00","date_gmt":"2019-02-13T15:08:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.kassthomas.com\/blog\/unlearn-to-be-yourself\/"},"modified":"2019-02-13T16:08:00","modified_gmt":"2019-02-13T15:08:00","slug":"unlearn-to-be-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.kassthomas.com\/blog\/unlearn-to-be-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"Unlearn to be yourself!"},"content":{"rendered":"<div dir=\"ltr\" style=\"text-align: left;\">\n<div style=\"-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;\">\n<div style=\"text-align: right;\">\n<div style=\"-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(251, 0, 7); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; color: #fb0007; font-family: &quot;Trebuchet MS&quot;; font-size: 13px; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 12px;\">\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #0c343d; font-family: &quot;trebuchet ms&quot; , sans-serif; font-size: large;\"><br \/><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;\"><span style=\"font-kerning: none;\"><span style=\"color: #0c343d; font-family: &quot;trebuchet ms&quot; , sans-serif; font-size: large;\"><span style=\"font-family: &quot;trebuchet ms&quot; , sans-serif;\">The basis, or the ground on which yo<\/span><span style=\"font-family: &quot;trebuchet ms&quot; , sans-serif;\">u build your life, is the quality of communication that you have with yourself and others. The way you understand your communication pattern is by asking yourself the following questions:<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<div style=\"-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;\"><span style=\"font-kerning: none;\"><span style=\"color: #0c343d; font-family: &quot;trebuchet ms&quot; , sans-serif; font-size: large;\">In your intimate communication, how do you behave with yourself? Are you caring (respectful), honest, lucid and encouraging? Or do you judge, do you lower yourself and always see what needs to be done better?<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<div style=\"-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;\"><span style=\"font-kerning: none;\"><span style=\"color: #0c343d; font-family: &quot;trebuchet ms&quot; , sans-serif; font-size: large;\">In your communication with others (people other than your own self), how do you position yourself? When you are talking with others- is your agenda to be right, or to truly listen? Do you impose your vision on others, or are you open to others\u2019 visions?<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<div style=\"-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 12px;\"><span style=\"color: #0c343d;\"><br \/><\/span><\/div>\n<div style=\"-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;\"><span style=\"font-kerning: none;\"><span style=\"color: #0c343d; font-family: &quot;trebuchet ms&quot; , sans-serif; font-size: large;\">Conflicts arise when we don\u2019t understand where the other person is coming from. You don\u2019t understand, and they don\u2019t either. Where does that leave your conversation? In a stagnant, unproductive place.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<div style=\"-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;\"><span style=\"font-kerning: none;\"><span style=\"color: #0c343d; font-family: &quot;trebuchet ms&quot; , sans-serif; font-size: large;\">It is also possible, that you might listen (without the goal of \u2018winning\u2019 the argument), and find something of substance in what they are conveying to you. This will make you better in whatever subject that is the topic of discussion.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<div style=\"-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;\"><span style=\"font-kerning: none;\"><span style=\"color: #0c343d; font-family: &quot;trebuchet ms&quot; , sans-serif; font-size: large;\">And then, when you show that you genuinely are interested to know the other person\u2019s point of view, the person with whom you communicate might ponder as well over your views. In the end, joining the most enticing aspects of both your points of views, you have an engaging&nbsp; and genuine discussion.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<div style=\"-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 12px;\"><span style=\"color: #0c343d;\"><br \/><\/span><\/div>\n<div style=\"-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;\"><span style=\"font-kerning: none;\"><span style=\"color: #0c343d; font-family: &quot;trebuchet ms&quot; , sans-serif; font-size: large;\">Similarly, in conflicts that are internal, do we truly accept and consider all the opinions we might have? In two paths that are in front of us, do we acknowledge and understand both paths? If we do, that will lead us to take the path that is best for us at that moment.<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<div style=\"-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; min-height: 12px;\"><span style=\"color: #0c343d;\"><br \/><\/span><\/div>\n<div style=\"-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;\"><span style=\"font-kerning: none;\"><span style=\"color: #0c343d; font-family: &quot;trebuchet ms&quot; , sans-serif; font-size: large;\">These are some of the things we can create by truly listening and communicating effectively:<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<div style=\"-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;\"><span style=\"font-kerning: none;\"><span style=\"color: #0c343d; font-family: &quot;trebuchet ms&quot; , sans-serif; font-size: large;\">&#8211; More fun to communicate<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<div style=\"-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;\"><span style=\"font-kerning: none;\"><span style=\"color: #0c343d; font-family: &quot;trebuchet ms&quot; , sans-serif; font-size: large;\">&#8211; Less conflicts<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<div style=\"-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;\"><span style=\"font-kerning: none;\"><span style=\"color: #0c343d; font-family: &quot;trebuchet ms&quot; , sans-serif; font-size: large;\">&#8211; Rewarding discussions<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<div style=\"-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;\"><span style=\"font-kerning: none;\"><span style=\"color: #0c343d; font-family: &quot;trebuchet ms&quot; , sans-serif; font-size: large;\">&#8211; Elimination of conflicts<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<div style=\"-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;\"><span style=\"font-kerning: none;\"><span style=\"color: #0c343d; font-family: &quot;trebuchet ms&quot; , sans-serif; font-size: large;\">&#8211; Problem solving<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<div style=\"-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;\"><span style=\"font-kerning: none;\"><span style=\"color: #0c343d; font-family: &quot;trebuchet ms&quot; , sans-serif; font-size: large;\">&#8211; Easier speaking in public<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<div style=\"-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;\"><span style=\"font-kerning: none;\"><span style=\"color: #0c343d; font-family: &quot;trebuchet ms&quot; , sans-serif; font-size: large;\">&#8211; Ease in professional and personal relationships<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<div style=\"-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;\"><span style=\"font-kerning: none;\"><span style=\"color: #0c343d; font-family: &quot;trebuchet ms&quot; , sans-serif; font-size: large;\">And so much more!<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<div style=\"-webkit-text-stroke-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;\"><span style=\"font-kerning: none;\"><span style=\"color: #0c343d; font-family: &quot;trebuchet ms&quot; , sans-serif; font-size: large;\">Discover the workshops of Kass Thomas, coach in communication, &#8220;7 Steps to Flawless Communication&#8221; and &#8220;Dancing with Riches&#8221;.<\/span><\/span><br \/><span style=\"font-kerning: none;\"><span style=\"color: #0c343d; font-family: &quot;trebuchet ms&quot; , sans-serif; font-size: large;\"><br \/><\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-kerning: none;\"><span style=\"color: #0c343d; font-family: &quot;trebuchet ms&quot; , sans-serif; font-size: large;\"><br \/><\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-kerning: none;\"><span style=\"color: #0c343d; 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